Embracing Individuality: Why Other Women Shouldn't Matter
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Chapter 1: The Dilemma of Comparison
Many women often find themselves preoccupied with thoughts about the woman who comes after them—be it a new girlfriend or a spouse. This comparison can lead to endless questions: Am I prettier? More accomplished? Or is it the opposite?
My mother used to say that whenever an ex-partner moves on, people will rush to tell you how stunning the new partner is, as if it somehow validates their choice.
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Section 1.1: The Humor in Comparison
I've found humor in hearing women critique the new partners of their exes. They often find a way to belittle them, and we all know this bias runs deep. I once heard a woman claim the new partner had a leaky roof, though I wasn't sure how she came by that information.
I recall a colleague who was astonished when her ex chose to marry another woman while still in a relationship with her. This act, often referred to as "marrying on" someone, is incredibly disrespectful. It shows a lack of consideration, especially if the ex was dating multiple women simultaneously without being honest.
This scenario isn't unique; I've seen it happen multiple times. It's one of the most heartless actions one can take. Yet, my coworker fixated on criticizing the new bride's weight, despite her own petite stature—around 5 feet tall and likely a size 4 or 6. I couldn't help but think, "But she is the one who has your man."
What did she gain by positioning herself as superior to the woman he chose? I truly don't know, but it’s clear that women should stop competing against one another. Such rivalry yields no real benefits.
Subsection 1.1.1: The Power of Self-Worth
I firmly believe that I have no interest in what an ex is up to or who they are with. It's simply not my concern. Moreover, you can't compete where you don't compare.
This principle applies universally to all women. No one else can replicate your individuality. I wish other women well in their journeys, but my focus remains on my own self-worth. It’s essential to recognize and elevate your value, which stems from your uniqueness.
Why her and not me? What does she possess that I lack? These questions have never made sense to me, and I believe they should be erased from our vocabulary.
Everyone deserves to be appreciated for who they are, but first and foremost, that appreciation must come from within.
Chapter 2: The Importance of Self-Acceptance
In the official music video "Sunday Sermons" by Anne Wilson, the theme of self-acceptance resonates strongly. The message encourages individuals to embrace their own journey without comparison to others.
The song "I Don't Care" by VIOLENT VIRA further emphasizes the importance of self-confidence and self-worth, reminding us that our value does not depend on others.