Chapter 1: A Personal Journey of Fatherhood

As a proud dad of five children, I can confidently say that only one of them is biologically related to me. I also cherish my role as a grandfather to seven and a great-grandfather to four.

My first wife had a son from a previous relationship, and together we welcomed a daughter into the world. My current wife was widowed before we met; she had two daughters and was pregnant with a third when her husband passed away. When we married, her daughters were understandably worried that I might try to replace their father. The emotional weight of their grief was palpable.

To ease their concerns, I took the eldest aside for a heart-to-heart conversation. I reassured her that I had no intention of being their father; instead, I would strive to be the best dad I could be. This commitment has remained steadfast ever since.

I made it clear that the term "step" would not define my relationship with them, which helped to alleviate some tension, although it took years for us to truly bond. Over time, those children came to love and accept me for who I am. Even now, my son refers to me as "dad," despite being in his 60s. My daughters, who are now in their late 40s and 50s, still call me Jim but always reach out on Father's Day, reminding me of our cherished connection.

Decades later, I am still a dad to all of them, as well as to my extended family. My grandchildren, who range in age from 18 to their mid-30s, greet me with warm hugs every time we meet.

In this digital age, the younger generation prefers electronic communication. I discovered, however, that this doesn't necessarily mean they answer phone calls. To stay connected, I started sending weekly text messages to our children, letting them know they are loved and remembered. More often than not, they respond with their own expressions of love.

As they married, their spouses were added to our text group, and when they began having children, those little ones were included as soon as they were old enough to have phones. Our circle continued to grow, and friends in need were invited to join as well.

Every Friday and Saturday, I volunteer at the St. Andrews Soup Kitchen in Flint, MI, one of the most challenged cities in the US in terms of poverty and violence. Many of the individuals I meet there, including fellow volunteers and patrons, have become part of my extended family through this text list.

The essence of this article is to highlight that family extends far beyond mere genetic ties. Due to my own experiences, I find it easy to connect with almost anyone. I feel blessed to recognize a spiritual bond with everyone I encounter. The opening words of The Lord’s Prayer—“Our Father”—profoundly underscore this belief.

So what does this mean? To me, the shared phrase "Our Father" signifies our universal connection, akin to a shared "spiritual DNA." Consequently, my extended family continues to grow, and I feel incredibly blessed rather than stressed. Thank you, God!

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Chapter 2: Nurturing Connections

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