Understanding Attraction: Debunking Myths Around Incels and Dating
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Chapter 1: The Experiment Overview
Recently, a YouTuber named Jack Gordon conducted an intriguing experiment that appeared in my feed.
Although the study may not have strictly adhered to scientific protocols due to its limited sample size, it still offered valuable insights.
The findings won't surprise those who have engaged with numerous women. Incels often reject these conclusions, as they lack the firsthand experience to grasp the complexities of attraction. They tend to overlook evidence that contradicts their beliefs, prioritizing their own narratives over the potential for genuine happiness with a partner. This mindset is not only misguided but also fundamentally unscientific.
Section 1.1: Key Findings of the Experiment
The second participant in the study was initially rated as the most attractive. However, the scores shifted dramatically when certain factors were altered. By manipulating the humor aspect—making the most attractive man the least humorous—his rating plummeted. Conversely, a man deemed the best at charming others (often referred to as having "rizz" in contemporary slang) received the highest score, despite being presented as the shortest.
These results contradict the typical incel or "blackpill" narrative that focuses solely on physical appearance. They fail to recognize the essential differences in how men and women perceive attraction.
Subsection 1.1.1: Individual Preferences in Attraction
An additional noteworthy point is the fate of the first man in the experiment. Despite not being rated as the most attractive, one woman showed a strong interest in him. As highlighted in my book, Never Lonely: The Uncensored Guide on How to Attract and Be Loved by Women, women's attraction to men varies significantly. While men might agree on which women are attractive, women do not reach a consensus on male attractiveness in the same way.
This variability means some women may find certain men appealing while others do not. Thus, drawing conclusions about your attractiveness from online dating experiences can be misleading, as they differ greatly from real-life interactions.
Section 1.2: Maximizing Attractiveness
For men aiming to enhance their appeal to women, it's crucial to shift focus from "looksmaxxing"—the obsession with optimizing physical appearance—to developing social skills. While appearance matters, it pales in comparison to the ability to engage and connect with others. Skills that foster positive interactions, often referred to as "rizz," are significantly more impactful.
To delve deeper into these skills and how to cultivate them, I recommend my book, Never Lonely: The Uncensored Guide on How to Attract and Be Loved by Women.
Chapter 2: Video Insights on Incels
In addition to the aforementioned experiment, two significant YouTube videos offer perspectives on incel narratives.
The first video, "Hunting Down Incel Extremists | Investigators," explores the implications of incel ideologies and the societal impact of extreme beliefs.
The second video, "I Was Wrong About Incels," provides a personal reflection on misconceptions surrounding the incel community.
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