Adaptation and Strategy

The individual I assist has cerebral palsy, which limits his physical control. He can nod in response to questions and manage to lean against someone for support, but he cannot walk or feed himself without significant assistance. He spends most of his day in one of four different wheelchairs, and it is my responsibility to help him transition between them.

To give context, he weighs around 100 pounds, while I am about 125 pounds. Initially, lifting him was a daunting task. During my first week of training, the previous caregiver, who was significantly larger than me, demonstrated the transfer techniques. He effortlessly lifted him, even using one arm, while I struggled to replicate his method. I appeared calm, but internally, I was unprepared and overwhelmed.

After the first week, my arms were sore from the effort, and I realized I needed to develop my own approach to lifting him. I began experimenting with various techniques, such as starting from his shoulders, bending my knees, and adjusting my grip. Through weeks of trial and error, I gradually created a lifting method that suited my strength and comfort level. My determination and adaptability have proven to be more crucial than raw strength, enhancing my resilience in both my professional and personal life.

Composure and Steady Hands

I’ve come to understand that a career as a doctor is not for me. I’ve always been fidgety and anxious, struggling to remain still for long periods. This became particularly challenging when I started feeding the individual I support. His favorite meals, like soup or sandwiches, require careful handling to prevent choking, and my nerves often got the better of me, especially in the presence of his parents.

Despite my initial fears, consistent practice has improved my feeding technique. My actions have become smoother, and I now rely on muscle memory to guide me, allowing me to maintain calmness during the process.

Patience and Endurance

While the person I support generally manages his emotions well, he can become overwhelmed, just like anyone else. When he experiences excitement or frustration, it’s vital for him to calm down to regain control over his muscles. During these moments, I’ve learned the importance of patience and positive reinforcement, acknowledging his feelings and helping him navigate through them.

Community and Environment

The individual I assist leads a dynamic life, participating in various activities such as school, gym, and art classes. Initially, I was puzzled by how he managed all of this, but I soon realized it was due to the support he receives. His instructors and therapists are committed to accommodating his needs, ensuring he can engage fully in his pursuits.

Witnessing his determination in these supportive environments inspires me to embrace my own health and learning goals.

Gratitude and Selflessness

Throughout my time as a caregiver, I’ve developed a nurturing mindset. I constantly consider the needs of the individual I support, prioritizing his well-being over my own. Even on days when I’m fatigued, I appreciate the physical activity that comes with my role. When mornings are difficult, I remind myself of the fulfillment my job brings and the grace his family shows me as I learn.

Ultimately, during challenging moments, I reflect on the power of perspective, recalling a simple yet profound statement from the person I support: “I have a good life.”